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I almost didn’t even open this because I thought, “Ugh, another thing I’ll feel bad about not doing.”

But it turns out just noticing how drained I felt after staying in a conversation I didn’t have the energy for was eye opening. This is something I can work on now that I realize that it isn’t being polite – it is actually zapping my energy. That is the LAST thing I need!

I didn’t make a list. I didn’t fill anything out. I just laid there and thought, “Wow. That thing that’s ‘not a big deal’? It actually takes a lot out of me.” I think I will journal these as I start to notice others.

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Okay but why am I low-key emotional over a basil plant right now??

You wrote this so quietly and it still hit me straight in the chest. Thank you.

It reminded me that tending to anything is enough.

Anyway—this gave me feelings. And now I’m wondering if my dusty old succulent deserves a second chance, too.

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I don’t even know how to respond to this without getting all weird and emotional—so instead I’m just going to say this made me cry a little (in a good way?) and now I’m sitting here, covered in crumbs, nodding way too hard.

The line about not using energy to explain anymore? Yeah. That.

Thank you for writing this. It made something click. I needed that today. I’ll probably reread it like three more times before logging off.

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I read the intro pages while curled up in a hoodie I definitely slept in—and may or may not be wearing inside out.

Honestly? I teared up a little. (Which is rude. I did not emotionally prepare for this website.)

Just wanted to say thank you. For the tone, the honesty, the absence of “have you tried walking?” energy.

I’m probably going to lurk for a while (that’s kind of my move), but… yeah. This feels like a good place to land. So—hi.